BB-healthy_sexuality-mod2 – Girls Inc. of Metro Denver

Module 2: Intimacy & Boundaries in Relationships

Reflect: Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships
Having romantic, sexual or other kinds of feelings towards someone (or not) is totally normal! It is important to understand what you believe about the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships. Watch Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships.
Can't see the video? Find it on Youtube here.
What is one thing you learned from the video?*

Reflect: Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships
What do you think? Respect, equity and communication are some of the most important qualities of a healthy relationship. Different people have different definitions of these ideas. So, who decides what is healthy and unhealthy for you? Ask three grown-ups to describe a “healthy” relationship. Record their responses here. Then, write your own definition.
Grown-Up #1*
Grown-Up #2*
Grown-Up #3*
Me!*

Analyze: Types of Intimacy
Healthy relationships include many types of intimacy and intimacy looks different for every person.

Intimacy: a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group

Read Types of Intimacy.
What does intimacy look like to you?*
What does intimacy sound like to you?*
What does intimacy feel like to you?*

Analyze: Red Flags
Everyone deserves the right to be in a healthy relationship. It is important to know the signs or “red flags” of a potentially abusive relationship. Watch Intimate Partner Violence.
Can't see the video? Find it on Youtube here.
What is one thing you learned from the video?*
Intimate partner violence is a pattern of abusive behavior used by a partner to maintain power and control over another partner. Read Relationship Spectrum.
What is one thing you learned from the article?*
Abusive behavior can happen to people of any gender or sexuality. Read The Power & Control Wheel.
What is one thing you learned from the article?*

Analyze: Creating Boundaries
Everyone needs boundaries. Boundaries are limits that are important in every relationship. Creating emotional, physical, digital, and financial boundaries can support the overall health and wellness of any relationship. Read Creating Boundaries.
What is one thing you learned from the article?*
Relationships are complicated. Let’s explore this complicated conversation to understand the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships. Listen to Six Minute Sex Ed podcast.
What is one thing you learned from the podcast?*

Apply: So, How Do I Say...?
Advocating for myself means I am able to say to partners what I need, want, expect and require.
Directions:
1. Read the scenario.
2. Recreate this conversation with your own responses.

Tavia recently started dating someone they really like. They text one another a lot. Tavia has started to get overwhelmed with how many times their partner texts them a day. One day Tavia gets a text that asks them to send a nude picture of themself. Tavia doesn’t know what to do since they are really uncomfortable and do not want to send a nude photo of themself. Since Tavia doesn’t respond right away, their partner gets really mad and starts to pressure them to send a photo.

Fill in the blanks to this simulation of a texting conversation with a new partner to practice communicating your boundaries.

Partner: COME ON, just one picture.
Partner: You are so hot. I want to see you.
Partner: I have not seen you in forever, I miss you.
Partner: COME ON, IT IS NOT A BIG DEAL

Partner: FINE, I GUESS YOU DON’T REALLY LIKE ME
My Response:*
Partner: C’mon! …… I will only ask just this once!
My Response:*
Partner: It is not that big of a deal, just one pic! I miss you!
My Response:*
Partner: Whatever. I didn’t want to see it anyway
My Response:*