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Hello! The following lesson focuses on topics of consent. As this is sometimes activating or triggering, we encourage you to engage with care, check in with yourself throughout the lesson and give yourself some extra support and tenderness. Consider taking a moment to write down who you can talk to and what activities you can do to bring you peace if needed.
Again, please take good care of your body/mind/spirit as you engage in this lesson.
Need more support? Here are some helpful confidential resources to contact to connect with a sexual violence advocate or counselor. - The Blue Bench offers a free sexual assault 24/7 confidential hotline. - RAINN is a national sexual assault 24/7 confidential hotline. - Crisis Text Line offers a 24/7 text message line to connect with a counselor.
Let’s take a look at some examples of what consent looks like and does not look like. Watch Consent Bot.
Can't see the video? Find it on Youtube here.
Now you try it! Ask three family and household members if you can have their phone.
Consent: Full, non-coerced (forced) agreement between all parties about physical, emotional, and sexual acts and dynamics. Getting agreement needs to be explicit and must take verbal and body language into account.
Consent is a universal idea! How does the word consent sound and mean all over the world? Listen to Youth Definitions of Consent .
When it comes to sexual activity and sex, you have the right to decide when you do it, where you do it and how you do it. Read Teen Talk.
Permission to tickle! What’s that all about? Listen to Six Minute Sex Ed podcast.
Nobody tells you what to do with your body! Nobody! Watch Consent for Kids.
Watch here about your right to change your mind about what you agreed to. Watch Consent Explained.
Is it consent when someone tries to pressure, threaten, or force you to do something you do not want to do? NO! It is not consent, it is coercion.
Coercion: the use of force or intimidation to obtain compliance
Let’s see an example of what coercion looks like. Watch The Notebook Clip.
Let’s analyze the clip together: How did Noah use coercion to get Allie to go out with him? Here is a list of ways that Noah used coercion:
- Forces himself onto the ride and endangers Allie and her friend
- Pressures Allie to say yes to going out with him by threatening to hurt himself
- Public humiliation
Let’s see when media got it right! Read 5 Amazing Love Scenes Where Pop Culture Got Consent Exactly Right.
Now let’s see how some other films portray attitudes about consent? You decide! Is this coercive or not? Consensual or not? View the following clips from popular Disney films to see examples.
1. Review what you have learned about consent so far using these links: Consent Definition, Teen Talk, Six Minute Sex Ed Podcast , Consent for Kids, Consent Explained, 5 Amazing Love Scenes Where Pop Culture Got Consent Exactly Right.
2. Think about what you would like people to know about consent. Some examples are: “You are the boss of your body”, “So, how do you know if someone wants to make out or have sex? You have to ask!”, and “Consent is giving permission by saying or showing yes”
3. Look through some examples of consent art and consent zines and posters, and consent memes using these links: Sex Ed: Wearing Consent T-Shirts and Designs, Consent Poster Examples, and Consent Meme Examples.
4. Pick your own consent art journey! Use Google Docs, Sketchpad, or Meme Generator to create your own poster or meme that shares with the world what YOU want people to know about consent.
5. Save your completed consent art or take a photo. Don’t know how to take a picture on your computer? Check out this link: Take a Picture from Google Docs. Don’t know how to take a screenshot of your art? Check out these links: Take a screenshot on your Mac, How to Take a Screenshot on your PC, Phone or Tablet
6. Upload your art piece to your portfolio.
Listen:Six Minute Sex Ed Podcast - What is Consent?
WatchLets Talk About ConsentConsent 101Consent TeaProtect Yourself Rules - Safe Touch / Unsafe Touch
PlayTeen Talk - Consent Game
AskQuick Answers to Intimate Sexual Health Questions
ReadWhen Adults Aren't Respecting Your Child's ConsentConsentParenting
ListenAbout Consent Podcast
DoPrepare at least five talking points for talking about consent with your child. Get some help from How to Talk to Your Kids about Consent. Then, text your child and set up the convo.