Hello! The following lesson focuses on topics of consent. As this is sometimes activating or triggering, we encourage you to engage with care, check in with yourself throughout the lesson and give yourself some extra support and tenderness. Consider taking a moment to write down who you can talk to and what activities you can do to bring you peace if needed.

Again, please take good care of your body/mind/spirit as you engage in this lesson.

Need more support? Here are some helpful confidential resources to contact to connect with a sexual violence advocate or counselor.
- The Blue Bench offers a free sexual assault 24/7 confidential hotline.
- RAINN is a national sexual assault 24/7 confidential hotline.
- Crisis Text Line offers a 24/7 text message line to connect with a counselor.

Let’s take a look at some examples of what consent looks like and does not look like. Watch Consent Bot.

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Now you try it! Ask three family and household members if you can have their phone.

Consent: Full, non-coerced (forced) agreement between all parties about physical, emotional, and sexual acts and dynamics. Getting agreement needs to be explicit and must take verbal and body language into account.

Consent is a universal idea! How does the word consent sound and mean all over the world? Listen to Youth Definitions of Consent .

When it comes to sexual activity and sex, you have the right to decide when you do it, where you do it and how you do it. Read Teen Talk.

Permission to tickle! What’s that all about? Listen to Six Minute Sex Ed podcast.

Nobody tells you what to do with your body! Nobody! Watch Consent for Kids.

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Watch here about your right to change your mind about what you agreed to. Watch Consent Explained.

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Is it consent when someone tries to pressure, threaten, or force you to do something you do not want to do? NO! It is not consent, it is coercion.

Coercion: the use of force or intimidation to obtain compliance

Let’s see an example of what coercion looks like. Watch The Notebook Clip.

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Let’s analyze the clip together: How did Noah use coercion to get Allie to go out with him? Here is a list of ways that Noah used coercion:
- Forces himself onto the ride and endangers Allie and her friend
- Pressures Allie to say yes to going out with him by threatening to hurt himself
- Public humiliation

Let’s see when media got it right! Read 5 Amazing Love Scenes Where Pop Culture Got Consent Exactly Right.

Now let’s see how some other films portray attitudes about consent? You decide! Is this coercive or not? Consensual or not? View the following clips from popular Disney films to see examples.